Tuesday, March 22, 2011

What is a Keeper At Home?

The Holy Bible refers to a woman being a "keeper at home".  I believe that doesn't only refer to "housekeeping".  It entails acting as guardians of our husband's house, his affairs and his children. I am a guarder to all my husband has entrusted to me. 

My focus each day is in keeping my home for my husband, and maintaining a haven of order, joy and tranquility that my family can thrive in. As woman, I am aware that I set the tone in the house.  That is why it is SO important that my tone is joyful and thankful. 

Titus chapter two gives women an outline of 8 basic duties.

1. to be sober, (moderate, controlled)
2. to love our husbands
3. to love our children
4. to be discreet

5. to be chaste
6 to be keepers at home
7. to be good
8. to be obedient to their own husbands

This list is very simple, isn't it?  Each one makes perfect sense. But God also has another very important reason for them: that the word of God be not blasphemed.  I think it's safe to conclude that when a woman is NOT attending to these things, God sees it as blasphemous.

When I seek to please my husband each day, I know I am pleasing the Lord. I'm fulfilling the purpose He created me for.

Genesis  2:18  And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

Help Meet literally means "suited or fit for".  We were literally made to help meet our husband's needs which is God's perfect design.   Each woman's tasks are as unique as each woman's husband. So we should each seek to please our own man. Find out what is at the top of his list and put it at the top of your list.  

All men enjoy good food and ironically, meal planning is often a struggle for many wives.  So menu planning seems is a good priority to have. Do your best to navigate around pesticides, genetically altered foods, and chemical additives but above all making healthy well balanced meals for your husband and kids.  But do what you can to eliminate as many health risks as possible. 

Learn what your husband considers important. If starched and pressed shirts are needful for his career, make them a priority.  Does he enjoy a hot breakfast in the morning? Get up a little early, don a pretty apron and prepare him a hearty morning meal each morning.  Does he come home dirty from hard labor?  Keep clean, fluffy towels in the bathroom for his showers, and keep his work clothes laundered so that he always has a clean set ready for work.

If our days are so busy that we fail at taking proper care of our husband's needs, then something has to change. How is a woman to do it all?  Let the children help.  And as soon as they can walk, they can help.  Remember the command above in Titus?  We are told to love our children. If we do not train our children to be cheerful in work and play, we are not loving them.  Children need to help around their home and do their share.  When our children are put in charge of several tasks around the house, they are happier and more content.

I heard a wonderful Christian speaker, Lorrie Flem, give her ideas for a work training session from mother (or father) to child. 
It goes this way:

I work, you watch.
I work, you help.
You work, I help.
You work, I watch.

In this way, children can really learn what mom expects a job to be done.   

Getting our children happy (work and discipline IS an ingredient for truly happy kids) is part of keeping our home.  When a mother ignores this vital step in training her children, the bible says she will be brought to shame. 

Children are born to love routine, and giving them one that is pretty much the same every day is a good idea. My children really like a solid routine.  It's nice if you can include an hour each afternoon for quiet time, even as they get older. It can refresh all in the home to have a period of solitude once a day.  I find that once kids are on a routine, moms really have an edge on keeping that home and creating the comforting haven for the family.

As keepers at home, we have something we alone are in charge of keeping and it's a blessing and honor. 

Let us revel in being Queen of our husband's hearts, and Queen over our very own homes.  Our homes are our castles, big or small. And when we focus our minds and hearts with gratitude for these things that most take for granted, God is glorified.

Is Fluoride Good For You?

“If you repeat a lie big enough, loud enough and long enough, people will eventually come to believe it.
-Joseph Goebbels

How many things do we believe are true just because someone said so?  Just because of a report on the news or a prominent figure said it?   For years I was ignorant about fluoride.  It was just something put in our toothpaste and said to be good for you. My pediatrician prescribed it in pills to my innocent little child when she was 4 years old because he said the water didn't have any.  Know what?  I later found out the water DID have fluoride.  That was the last time I blindly believed an "authority" again.  Do your research and find out all you can when it comes to propoganda.  And, aside from evolution, I think fluoride must be one of the biggest propoganda lies of them all.

If you are for or neutral about fluoride, think about this: if fluoride is a truly valuable substance, why does 99% go down the drain?
Some Interesting Facts about Fluoride

1)  97% of western Europe has chosen fluoride-free water. This includes: Austria, Belgium, Denmark, Finland, France, Germany, Iceland, Italy, Luxembourg, Netherlands, Northern Ireland, Norway, Scotland, Sweden, and Switzerland. (While some European countries add fluoride to salt, the majority do not.) Instead of mandating the intake of fluoride for the whole population, western Europe does not deny individuals the right to refuse fluoride.
2)  Fluoride is the only chemical added to drinking water for the purpose of medication (to prevent tooth decay).  All other chemicals are added to treat the water to treat the water.   Realize this: fluoride is added to treat the people.  This is what's known as mass medication.
3)  Contrary to previous belief, fluoride has no benefit when swallowed. When water fluoridation began in the 1940s and '50s, dentists pushed the idea that fluoride needed to be swallowed in order to be most effective. But according to the Centers for Disease Control the need to swallow fluoride is peposterous.

4) Fluoridated water is no longer recommended for babies. In November of 2006, the American Dental Association (ADA) changed their advice to parents about fluoride and warned them to avoid giving babies fluoridated water.
Babies exposed to fluoride are at high risk of developing dental fluorosis - a permanent tooth defect caused by fluoride damaging the cells which form the teeth. Other tissues in the body may also be affected by early-life exposures to fluoride includoing damage to the developing brain, causing learning deficits and other problems.

5) The vast majority of fluoride added to water supplies is wasted, since over 99% of tap water is not actually consumed by a human being. It is used instead to wash cars, water the lawn, wash dishes, flush toilets, etc.  Some valuable substance, huh?
Q:  If it were so needful, why wouldn't the government simply offer free bottles of fluoride pills to those who wanted it? 
A: The only alternative to disposing of the billions of gallons of the toxic waste that is fluoride would be to pay extremely costly disposal fees to toxic waste dumps.

6) Ingestion of fluoride has no benefit, but many risks.
a) Risk to the brain. Fluoride can damage the brain.

b) Risk to the thyroid gland.  Drinking fluoridated water, may reduce the function of the thyroid among individuals with low-iodine intake. Reduction of thyroid activity can lead to loss of mental acuity, depression and weight gain.

c) Risk to bones. Fluoride can diminish bone strength and increase the risk for bone fracture.

d) Risk for bone cancer. Animal and human studies have found a connection between fluoride and a serious form of bone cancer in males under the age of 20.

e) Risk to kidney patients. People with kidney disease are at greater risk for fluoride toxicity. Apparently their ability to excrete fluoride from the body is impaired, resulting in toxic levels of fluoride which accumulate in the bones, intensify the toxicity of aluminum build-up, and exacerbate a painful bone disease.

7) The industrial chemicals used to fluoridate water may present unique health risks not found with naturally-occurring fluoride complexes.  The chemicals used to fluoridate drinking water - fluorosilicic acid, sodium silicofluoride, and sodium fluoride - are actually industrial waste products from phosphate fertilizer factories.

8) Water fluoridation’s benefits to teeth have been exaggerated.   Even proponents of water fluoridation are now finally admitting their doubts to its effectiveness. )
a) No difference exists in tooth decay between fluoridated & unfluoridated countries. While water fluoridation is often credited with causing the reduction in tooth decay that has occurred in the US over the past 50 years, the same reductions in tooth decay have occurred in all western countries, most of which have never added fluoride to their water.
It's important to not that the vast majority of western Europe has rejected water fluoridation. According to comprehensive information from the World Health Organization, their tooth decay rates are just as low, and, in fact, often lower than the tooth decay rates in the US.  Hmmm....
b) You don't get more cavities without fluoride. In communities which have ended fluoridation, no increase in cavities has been reported.
c) Fluoridation does not prevent oral health crises in low-income areas. No matter how many emotional claims are made to the contrary, dental woes are related to sugar rot not the lack of dental care access or fluoride.
9) Fluoridation influences added risk and burden to poor communities Rather than benefiting low-income areas, fluoridation is specifically burdensome and harmful.

10) Many are over-exposed to fluoride Americans are now receiving fluoride from many other source besides the water supply resulting in an excess intake of what's recommended daily. This puts them at elevated risk of toxicity.

So if america's crops are watered with fluoridated water, how much is in our produce?  Grocery store shelves are lined with foods made with fluoridated water. How much fluoride do each of these foods contain?  How are we to measure our daily intake of fluoride when we consider our daily intake all these unknown sources?
Because of the increase in fluoride exposure from all these sources combined, the rate of dental fluorisis (a visible indicator of over-exposure to fluoride during childhood) has increased significantly over the past 50 years. In the 1940s, dental fluorosis used to impact less than 10% of children. The latest national survey found that it now affects over 30% of children!

What all this has meant to my family is standing against the mass medication in our country.  We have politely said no to the fluoride offered at dental visits.  We attended a local city counsel meeting in our home town years ago and fought the addition of fluoride to our community water. We were one of only 3 or 4 other concerned local residents who were present that night. 

The rest of the room was made up, unbelievably, of dentists from other counties! They did not show up because of what they stood to gain by being there.  It was what they stood to LOSE: lucrative kick-backs (MONEY) from the fluoride suppliers in return for the dental association's support. 

Well, we the people stood up and told the truth and the faces of the officials listening showed genuine shock.  It was almost like they'd never heard the truth before! (Of course they hadn't!)  And who do you suppose won?  WE DID!  They tore down the giant tank they'd built to hold the toxic stuff and sent the poison pushers packing!  I was proud of our town that day.

Years ago, when one of our children suffered the effects from fluoride we learned about the cause, and immediately reversed our course. We have now been using Tom's of Maine toothpaste without fluoride for over 10 years without any further problems.  Cool, huh?

More Than Just Antiques

For thousands of years people had knowledge of foods and herbs.   A good woman's worth was tangible. She was an asset to her husband, and he was richer for having her.  She could cook from scratch, weave, or knit or sew up clothing and curtains, doctor up a wound, use healing herbs, plow a garden, grow vegetables, butcher meat, churn butter, bake bread, make cheese, and preserve food through drying, smoking, canning and fermenting.  I'm sure that my list is short compared to all the other things she could do.  It is truly shameful that these wonderful things stopped being passed down from one generation to another.  Modern life came and interrupted.  Grandmas knowledge became "cute" and "quaint".  
But today everywhere we look, people can be seen gazing and tapping into cell phones, gawking at video games, staring at televisions and transfixed by computers.  This country has developed into a nation dependent on electric and battery powered gadgets.  But consider for a moment and imagine what would happen if you became ill and couldn't work, or if an earthquake or hurricane or bomb left your community devastated. It happens.

When unexpected disasters happen, people who are even a little prepared are much better off than those who have taken their dependence on outside resources for granted. When you imagine the security of not having to worry about going to the store for even a few weeks, a comprehensive storage system begins to make sense.Considering these issues, the "information age" appears more like a backward regression to me. 

 The Bible tells us that the our flesh is lazy and we naturally seek the easier way of doing things. It takes effort to put off laziness and seek wisdom and knowledge.  But the rewards are worth effort. 

Before the 20th century, many people understood how to use the soil to grow things, how to distinguish one wild berry from another and how to survive without the "help" of governments.  In fact, they considered accepting charity a real blow to their dignity.  Men wanted to work for money.  Now, many men are standing on corners with cardboard signs with no problem beggin for a hand out.  Only this generation of men are spending it on their addictions rather than food for their families.

Job 21:14  Therefore they say unto God, Depart from us; for we desire not the knowledge of thy ways.

Today, we see far too many pasty and sickly children with callouses on their finger tips from all the texting and video game buttons.

Pr 20:21 An inheritance may be gotten hastily at the beginning; but the end thereof shall not be blessed.

Country folks are ridiculed by city slickers because they are "backward" and modern ways are so much better.  But modern living is rather artificial don't you think?   If money and electricity were suddenly gone, I wonder how many would starve or use violence to take what those with and self-sufficiency skills have worked hard to achieve.

I do love electricity  and the ability to flip a switch and have my "servants" (major appliances) wash my clothes and dishes!  But I think it's wise to acquire knowledge on how to accomplish household tasks without modern conveniences if need be.  If I ever get my hands on a wash tub and clothes line, I'm going to declare Pioneer Week at our house and have a ball doing the wash and hanging it on the line with my kids on a warm summer day.  

I canned for the first time in my life last month. I do not currently own a canner, (though I hope to get one in the future)  but I didn't let that stop me.  I just used kitchen tongs, a great big pot and some pint mason jars and got to work. It went really well and I canned 5 pints of blueberry jam. My 12 yr old son even helped me and learned a lot in the process.  It must be wonderful to be taught this kind of thing by a loving grandmother, mother or aunt.  But for those of us who don't have such privileges, there are tutorials and books. 

If you have the kind of skills that are rapidly becoming "extinct" in our society, I encourage you to pass them on.  Invite groups to your home and show them how it's done.  We don't have to capitalize on everything.  Skills like these are probably availabe through different community venues, but when a family is already struggling in this economy, why not donate your time and skills to those in need?  Local homeschool groups are a ready and willing recipient of such offers.
Such genorosity is almost unheard of.  But it's a seed that will produce a harvest of self sufficiency and bless generations to come.

Get Knowledge

As a homeschooling mom, I am constantly reminded of teaching my children the things they need to know.  And while it is good to teach them math, grammar, science, history and other acedemics, I believe it is equally important for them to know how to live well.

Living well involves good health.  But if you're like me, you've noticed there is a lot of confusing and conflicting information out there and it can be difficult to navigate.  I know I have felt this way many times.  There are doctor shows on tv and health magazines galore passing out all kinds of information.

Old joke: Do you know what they call a doctor who graduated last in his class? A doctor! 

Fact: Doctors can be very helpful people, but they are just that - people. Like you and me. And they are not even close to being as interested or concerned with your family's health as YOU are.  I believe it is unwise to put them in charge of your health. 

Fact: The basis for all knowledge, begins with the word of God, the Bible.  

If what someone says is in accordance with the Bible, it has merit.  If it contradicts the infallible word of God, it is foolishness and I discard it.  

Example 1: we read in the Bible that a merry heart is good medicine.  Modern science confirms this.  That is good knowledge.  

Example 2: The Bible says that abstaining from meat (veganism and vegetarianism) is a doctrine of devils. God has proclaimed that meat is good.

How plain is the Word of God?  How wonderful that we have Bibles in our own language to read and understand and obtain wisdom from!  God has told each of us to seek wisdom and all we have to do is ask him. 

There are three components to learning something:  knowledge, wisdom and understanding. 
Without knowledge, we can have no understanding. 
Without wisdom, we aren't able to put either to good use. 

   What is wisdom?

Job 28:28a  Behold, the fear of the Lord, that is wisdom;

What is understanding?
Job 28:28b To depart from evil is understanding.

What is most important?
Prov 4:7a Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom:

Anything else?
Prov 4:7b  And with all thy getting get understanding.

Here we see that God says wisdom is paramount and that understanding must go with it.  According to the Word of God, fearing the Lord IS wisdom.  Departing from evil IS understanding.  Those are good verses to meditate on today!

Every day we have the opportunity in this great land of ours, to gain knowledge, wisdom and understanding. Each of these have lasting consequences.  A wife who doesn't know much is a burden to her husband and a detriment to her children who depend on her for health and happiness.  This can have an effect on generations to come. I encourage you to get off facebook, put down the remote control, the romance novel and the hollywood magazines and seek out knowledge that will make you prudent and wise.

What about knowledge?  Let's consider a few key verses in the Bible concerning knowledge

Prov 2:6For the LORD giveth wisdom: out of his mouth cometh knowledge and understanding.

Prov 2:10When wisdom entereth into thine heart, and knowledge is pleasant unto thy soul;

Prov 10:14Wise men lay up knowledge: but the mouth of the foolish is near destruction.

Prov 23:12Apply thine heart unto instruction, and thine ears to the words of knowledge.

Prov 24:5A wise man is strong; yea, a man of knowledge increaseth strength.

The Lord tells us again and again how important knowledge is.  Theives can rob your house, but not your knowledge.  It is far better than riches.  The root of knowledge is KNOW. So what do you know? 

Do you know the latest headlines in Hollywood and who's married to whom this week?  How about the latest movies or television shows?  Do you know the words to popular songs on the radio by heart? What about the latest gossip around town?  

Do these forms of knowledge bring you closer to wisdom or destruction?
Do you know how to take care of your families health without dependence on a failing healthcare system?  Do you have knowledge on how to distinguish between edible and poisonous plants in the wild?  Do you know what ingredients are contained in modern vaccinations and what their implications are to your children's health?  Do you know how to prevent heart disease with one simple herb?

These are just a FEW examples of the great differences between wise or useful knowledge and foolish or useless knowledge.

I wasted the early years of my adult life with the useless and foolish variety. But I am filling up the rest of my years with the wise and useful kind.  Won't you join me?

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