Wednesday, October 26, 2011

How to Open a Pomegranate

Pomegranates are a great source of vitamin C, B5, fiber and they are also antioxidants and anti-viral.  But they are a pain to open!  Every time I've eaten a pomegranate it's a struggle to pick out all those little encased seeds.  Well I just learned an old Indian method to open one and I wanted to share it with you. It's a cinch!


How to Open a Pomegranate


Score the pomegranate crossways and wedge open with your knife. Break the halfs into quarters and then one at a time over a medium size bowl, hold each quarter, skin side up in the palm of one hand and hit the skin all over with the flat side of a wooden spoon with the other hand.  The seeds will fall out of the pods and into the bowl - all of them! 


This method has taken the dread out of pomegranates for me.  I am off to make a pomegranate smoothie for my family now!

Friday, October 14, 2011

Courageous

My husband and I went to see the movie, "Courageous" this afternoon and it has to be the Kendrick brothers' best work yet. I think it's a movie that is life changing and I would like to see more like it.  The Lord sure has given these men an amazing gift of movie making. Every film they have done is intelligently written, has wit, humor, heart and good story telling.

The story in their latest movie moves at a good pace and there is never a time when I was bored. In fact, I couldn't believe it was over two hours, it went by so fast.  And even though it was a drama, it was not so heavy that it was a downer at all.  They put truly hilarious comic relief steadily throughout the movie and we lauged out throughout the film.  But we also cried.  A lot.  There were only 5 other people in the theater with us (it was an early matinee) and sniffling and eye rubbing was abundant among us all.


I'm not going to give away the plot or story line, but I will say that it's a must see film.  Every man should see the movie for sure.  I applaud the Kendrick brothers for what they're doing.  The film industry has needed them for a long, long time. I hope they make hundreds more films like these. Go see Courageous!

Wednesday, October 12, 2011

Making Greeting Cards

I enjoy making my own greeting cards. It is much more economical for one thing.  Prices for greeting cards baffle me.  Some cost as much as $5 and $6 dollars and when you're on a tight budget, that is quite an extravagance.  Years ago when our family was young and our budget extremely tight, I decided to make my own.  The advantages include saying exactly what I want to and making it special to the person I'm giving it to. And every time I make one, it cost literally pennies and I'm saving money.


I have different books that I use as references.  Some have quotes, some have scriptures by category.  And I sometimes reference websites such as Bluemountain.com for inspiration. I also use my own original poetry.


The variety of ways to construct a greeting card are endless.  There are many books on the subject at the library to assist with learning techniques.  But a few scraps of pretty paper and some basic art supplies are all that's really needed to turn out pretty, unique cards. 


One of my new found favorites is the use of watercolor paints.  Here's the card I just made for my husband's birthday.



I printed out the words and then added color with this simple kids water color set.


I designed the card on our computer card making program and then printed it out in black and white.  Our printer is laser and only does black and white printing, so any color it had was going to be up to me. So I blended some pretty water color shades together as I went and I think it turned out well.

The moisture caused the paper to buckle a bit, so while it was still moist, I layed it face up on the bathroom counter and blasted hot air from my blow dryer directly onto the card. The warm air dried the paint and also flattened the card back down.


Here is another card I made yesterday by printing out the words and adding my own artwork and color.



There are a myriad of ways you can make greeting cards. Tearing paper and layering it is also a great way to give a card a look and feel of prominence.  Ribbons, eyelets, glitter, feathers and sewing stitches add a lot of charm and make cards even fancier. 


I love plain and simple cards with a hand drawn look to them as well. (Like the shoebox variety at hallmark. ) If you have even a little artistic talent, you can draw simple figures of people, balloons, a vase of flowers, a puppy - things like that - and then fill the drawings with a little watercolor for a fabulous professional look. 

Or you could print out some clipart and hand color them.  Hand coloring is a nice touch and gives the card a warmer sentiment than printing out in color, I think.  But in a rush, I've used our color printer in the past. 


If you haven't tried making your own greeting cards, I encourage you to give it a try.  Your loved ones will feel special, you can express yourself personally in a way that no store bought greeting can do and you will have the added benefit of saving money!

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Cherishing the Love of My Husband

I am going to ooze all over my blog today because of my loving husband.  Only my husband could make steadiness sexy and quiet strength an aphrodisiac. I am so in love with my husband. Is he perfect? Um, no.  But am I? (Even more of a no!)  But we have joy and love and hope and strength through holy matrimony.


We just celebrated another wedding anniversary and he presented me with sweet gifts. I had a bad cold that week and during the days prior, was unable to think clearly much less prepare for our special day.  I pleaded with him to postpone everything till next week, but he persisted with his romantic pursuit of me. 


He presented me with the sweetest card, a dozen beautiful roses and some thoughtful gifts. What a wonderful man.  I am so blessed. I write this to encourage every woman reading this.  I could have easily pushed my husband away with many gripes along our journey together.  There have been many things I could have torn my house down over.  But ladies, sweetly being my husband's help meet is worth every "sacrifice" I've made, every word I bit my tongue over, every mountain we've climbed and valley we've walked. 


I don't say this because of material possessions- it is because of my husband's love poured upon me.  It is sweet indeed to be cherished by a man.  My husband's promise to be with me till death is so profoundly beautiful and meaningful to me.  No one else in my life - not my friends, not my relatives - have given me a promise like that. 


Only my husband. Like Ruth, Esther and Sarah, I have left all I have known and walked faithfully by my husband's side.  And my joy is full.  Don't listen to people - listen to the Lord.  He created you for your husband.  Too many marriages are in trouble.  Too many marriages lack joy and passion.  The devil comes to steal, kill and destroy.  Don't let him have yours! 


Anyway, here are the card and flowers he gave me.  He also got me a vintage book I've been wanting called "Mama's Bank Account" and a new calligraphy pen.  So thoughtful! 






Aren't those beautiful?!  Usually, he gives me red roses, but the store was all out of red so he got yellow.  I'm overjoyed to have them because they are a symbol of his love for me.  I remember years ago how foolish I was when he'd get me flowers.  I'd say he shouldn't have, we couldn't afford it and things like that. How dumb could I be?  I didn't see anymore flowers for a long time.  When God finally worked the foolishness out of me, I repented to my sweet husband. If my husband wants to show me his love with extravagant flowers what a wonderful way to "waste" money!  :)  Praise God for the work he's done in our marriage.  It was never "bad" by any means.  But honey, let me tell you - it's extraordinary now.  All from yielding up my plans to God. 


The card made he gave me made me cry.  (Tears of joy of course.)  It said:


All I want
is to love you for the rest of my life...
to wake up every morning
with you by my side
knowing that no matter what happens,
I'll be able to come home to your loving arms
All I want is to share everything with you...
to talk to you about our ideas,
our dreams, the little everyday things that make us laugh;
and the no-so-little things that we can't help worrying about.
All I want is to give you my love...
as a place you can always come to for acceptance
or the simple comfort that silence brings
when things left unspoken can still be understood.
All I want is to grow old with you...
to watch our life unfold, our dreams, one by one, come true.
All I want is to love you forever.


Then his personal note to me:
My love, for __ years I have fallen more in Love with you.  I am so very blessed to have you a part of my life.  Please stay with me always and keep me young at heart. 
I love you Passionately,




Now..wouldn't that make you cry?  :)   I've kept every card he's ever given me.  This one has to be one of the most special.  What a wonderful man. (sigh)   I'm sharing this passionate love that has blossomed in my marriage to encourage you.  True love, fidelity, passion and fun in marriage IS possible. And it is even more wonderful than movie romance, because true love is REAL.

Monday, October 10, 2011

Denominations vs. Bible Believing

I am a Bible believer.  I have no loyalty to any denomination.  The difference between a Bible believer and those who hold to a denomination is that denominations are loyal to titles and ideas of men and Bible believers are loyal to Jesus Christ and him alone.


I find it difficult to understand why anyone would choose to identify themselves with a denomination.  Is not Christ alone sufficient?  Jesus Christ and his Word are enough for me.  This does not mean that I interpret the Bible my own way.  It means I believe every word of my Bible and do not seek to interpret my own way.  The Holy Ghost helps aid in scripture understanding to a believer and unity among believers testifies of that.  Divisions in the church are always the result of a human being and their particular, private interpretation of the Bible.  And therein lies the problem. Scripture is clear on this point: 


 2 Peter 1:19-21 We have also a more sure word of prophecy; whereunto ye do well that ye take heed, as unto a light that shineth in a dark place, until the day dawn, and the day star arise in your hearts: Knowing this first, that no prophecy of the scripture is of any private interpretation. For the prophecy came not in old time by the will of man: but holy men of God spake as they were moved by the Holy Ghost.


The number of Christian denominations today is staggering. Almost as much as the number of bible versions...or what pass for bibles.  Just the fact that so many speak of Christ's church and his word, the Bible, in the plural is alarming.  Such things completely contradict scripture. How many churches did Christ create? (One.)  How many Bibles did he write? (One.)  Yet there are scads of church sects and bible versions - no wonder so many people are confused!


I believe that all we need to know concerning Christ and his church, God spoke to us in his Word. The simplicity of the truth contained in the epistles about the church is so marvelous, so pure, so easy to understand it is mind-boggling how so many people are blinded to its truth.  God (through Apostle Paul)  rebuked, encouraged, exhorted and expounded on every single issue that we have need of today. It's all there and it's all covered.  

Let's take the issue of denominations as it is clearly and consisely addressed by Paul:
1 Corinthians 1:10  Now I beseech you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye all speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you; but that ye be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment.


I find that declaration to be staggeringly clear. 
No divisions among you. Check.
Speak the same thing. Got it.
Be perfectly joined together. Ten-four.


Paul continues...
1 Cor 1: 11 For it hath been declared unto me of you, my brethren, by them which are of the house of Chloe, that there are contentions among you. Now this I say, that every one of you saith, I am of Paul; and I of Apollos; and I of Cephas; and I of Christ. Is Christ divided? was Paul crucified for you? or were ye baptized in the name of Paul?


So again - CRYSTAL CLEAR. 


How can SO many people miss this?  There are to be NO divisions.  But we look at Christianity and see almost nothing BUT divisions.  Assemblies of God, Vineyards, Nazerenes, Methodists, Calvanists, 3-point Calvinists, 5-point Calvanists, Reformationists, Armenians, Lutheran, Pre-Lutherans, Presbyterians, Anabaptists, Amish, Mennonites, Quakers, Independent, Four Squares, Fundamentalists.  Are they not reading the Bible which they claim to believe?  


To be clear, there is a definite distinction between denominations within the body of Christ and the non-Christian cults and false religions. Presbyterians and Lutherans are examples of Christian denominations. Mormons, Roman Catholics and Jehovah’s Witnesses are examples of cults (groups claiming to be Christian but denying one or more of the essentials of the Christian faith). Islam and Buddhism are entirely separate religions.  It's important not to confuse these false religions with the Body of Christ.


If the dischord among all those who claim the same Lord is paradoxical to us, it must be really confusing to those outside the faith.  What kind of witness is this to those who are in darkness? 
Denominations exist because of disputes over the interpretation of scripture because the people involved in these disputes have neglected very important things. Firstly, the body of Christ is marked by unity.


Ephesians 4:3-6 Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. There is one body, and one Spirit, even as ye are called in one hope of your calling; One Lord, one faith, one baptism, One God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all, and in you all.


Secondly, the scriptures can NOT be privately interpreted.
2 Peter 1:20 Knowing this first, that no prophecy of the scripture is of any private interpretation. For the prophecy came not in old time by the will of man: but holy men of God spake as they were moved by the Holy Ghost.


Thirdly, God's word is the final authority on every subject. Period. In the book of Revelation, God delivers this blistering warning about tampering with His written Word:


"For I testify unto every man that heareth the words of the prophecy of this book, If any man shall add unto these things, God shall add unto him the plagues that are written in this book: And if any man shall take away from the words of this prophesy, God shall take away his part out of the book of life, and out of the holy city, and from the things which are written in this book." Revelation 22:18-19
The Apostle Paul tells us what to do with those who teach doctrines contrary to God's written Word:


"Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offences contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned; and avoid them.  For they that are such serve not our Lord Jesus Christ, but their own belly; and by good words and fair speeches decieve the hearts of the simple." Romans 16:17-18


Paul admonishes true believers to avoid anyone who teaches doctrines contrary to the written Scriptures. He also reveals the consequences of believing such false teachings:


"But though we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel unto you than that which we have preached unto you, let him be accursed.  Galatians 1:8


Then Paul immediately repeats himself:


"As we said before, so say I now again, If any man preach any other gospel unto you than that ye have recieved, let him be accursed." Galatians 1:9


When we stand before the Lord, we'll be standing alone, so "study to shew thyself approved unto God". Don't follow religion, follow God.  Don't believe men, believe God.  Don't associate yourself with a denomination, cling to Christ alone.  When I read the word of God and pray for wisdom to understand what I read, I'm amazed at how it differs from what denominations teach. 




And the Lord said, Hear what the unjust judge saith. And shall not God avenge his own elect, which cry day and night unto him, though he bear long with them? I tell you that he will avenge them speedily. Nevertheless when the Son of man cometh, shall he find faith on the earth? Luke 18:6-8



Thursday, October 6, 2011

Love Your Children

In Titus 2:4  we read, "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children".






Why does God find it necessary to have the young women taught to love their husbands and children? Doesn't loving them come naturally? Obviously it's easy for anyone to show and feel love when they're pleased. It's when we're dis pleased that it's difficult.  


Loving our husbands and children properly is an ongoing learning process and the evidence of love is found in works and actions.  Those who had this modeled for them by mothers and grandmothers are way ahead.  If you don't have these ready-made role models, I encourage you to find a lady in your church or homeschool group who you admire and then seek to learn from her.  Today I'm listing my Top Ten most important things a mother can do to love her children.






1. Love their father.  It sounds obvious, but our children are aware that a big part of life is finding love.  Romance is the #1 thing people sing about, write about and make movies about. The world's idea of hot romance is fornication not long term, happy and fulfilling marriage. That is just a pipe dream. Or is it?  How we model romance in our homes is extremely important. Children who see their parents deeply in love, still playful, still swooning, still mad for eachother - will long for what we have and be willing to wait for the one God has for them. So love their father and love him well. Show them that romance is alive and well right under their noses, giving them hope for their own future love story.


2. Become unrufflable.  Don't let your children rile or ruffle you. Mothers must learn the art of remaining calm, cool and collected.   Be quick to love and slow to anger.  Very slow.  In fact, our anger should be so seldom seen that when it does appear, our children will recognize the grave need to respond soberly.  A mother who flies off the handle throughout each day at her children is nullifying her authority and losing their respect. Let your love shine brightly even when giving correction and command your children with sovereignty.  A mother that does this is loving her children well, confirming her authority and gaining their respect.


3. Always mean what you say.  A small child who begs for something and is first told no, he cannot have it but with excess whining is then given the thing, has learned that his mother rarely, if ever, means what she says.  This kind of mother doesn't realize it, but she is lying to her child.  He will relate his mother to a mine field where one never knows where a safe footing can be found. Saying what you mean and upholding it to the end gives children a firm foundation.  They know they can count on their mother to be the same - always.  Children need repetition.


4. Provide structure for your children.  Children like to know what is going to happen to a certain degree.  Giving them a schedule, rules and routines causes them to feel secure, teaches them responsibility and makes them feel loved.  Children who left to create their own order of the day are on a fast-track to self-centeredness.  Don't be afraid to run your household.  Some children really intimidate their mothers and will mow them down without thinking twice.  Mama, if that's you, you must be stronger than your strongest-willed child.  Never use anger.  Anger at children is always derived at ourselves; we are angry that we have failed to cause them behave correctly.  Give your children a list of what they're expected to do.  And always make the "bar" low enough so they will be triumphant in their daily accomplishments.  As they get older, progessively raise the "bar" to match their growing capabilities.


5, Play and laugh with your children.  When children are very little, this is an easy natural thing to do. But when they are older, many parents forget how to play with their teens. But joy, play and laughter remain the sweetest part of life no matter what our age, so don't forget to initiate play time with your kids.  Playing family games regularly helps keep this important aspect alive in our family.  We love laughing together and playing fun games gives us regular opportunity to do so.  Whatever fun and wholesome activity you can think will work to tie the strings of love between you and your kids.


6. Give your children GOOD food.  It's amazing how food is so strongly connected with contentedness, love and security.  From birth, our entire world is surrounded by food.  Infants should always be held close and cuddled while being fed (optimally with mother's milk).  Such cozy comfort reinforces the association with love and nourishment.  Good food is the source of good health.  Cutting nutritional corners should be a rare exception.  Have a plan so you can put healthful, delicious meals on your table every day. It provides much more than good nutrition; it is love in the most practical sense.  The sight of a woman in her kitchen preparing good food to nourish her family leaves children with an indelible memory of the love of their mother.


7. Give your children fresh air and sunshine.  Too many children are spending way too many hours indoors these days and subsequently missing out on so much.  As much as it's possible for you, encourage your children to play or spend time out of doors.  Investing in a patio set where they can sit and do their coloring or their school work helps, too.  Depending on their ages, trampolines, play equipment, sand boxes, hay bale targets for archery all make excellent outdoor activities.  If these aren't feasible, frequent hikes or picnicking in the park are adequate substitutes. Children love it when mom watches all their daring feats. It's important for them to show off their growing prowess to you and to receive confirmation that they are indeed fine children growing healthy, strong and brave.  I can't count the number of times my children said, "Mom, watch this!"  (I always watch, smile and praise their newest "feats".) Which leads to the next point.


8. Encourage, exhort and praise your children!  Our children will make many mistakes - we all do.  But focusing too strongly on their mistakes can cause them to have a downcast spirit. When they do something wrong, quickly correct their mistake and move on.  They will learn in time.  Ladies, we have the tendency to lecture. Learning the art of "short & sweet" makes a world of difference! Focus strongly on their good attributes and praise, praise, praise!  Kids thrive on encouragement. Did they remember to pick up their wet towel? Praise them for it! Did they remember to clear the table without being asked?  Shower them with encouragement.  Tell them how impressed you are with how responsible they are becoming.  So be your children's biggest cheer leader! And when correction is needed, those spoonfuls of sugar really helps that medicine go down.


9. Smile at your children.  Have you ever stopped to take note of the expression you wear on your face throughout the day?  We can become practiced in smiling just as easily as we can scowling.  I've sometimes checked my face in the middle of the day and been shocked to see a serious, concerned look - and nothing serious or concerning was happening at the moment.  We moms can have so many things on our minds weighing us down that it's easy to have an expression of stress, worry or unhappiness.  No matter what is going on in our lives, though, our trust in the Lord can help us cultivate a genuine smile.  So practice smiling and check throughout the day to make sure your children see a cheerful mama!


10. Read with your children.  Reading together creates a warm and cozy experience between mother and child.  Picture books are fun to read when they are little and letting the child help tell the story.  My children are older now, but we are still reading together. We've read through the Little House series a few times through as well as many, many good books. I will have to post a list of our favorites sometime soon.  This year we are reading through the Bible and it's been such a special time together.  We started in the book of Joshua using A Beka's "Joshua & Judges" book.  My kids enjoyed the companion guide but what I found most surprising (and wonderful!) was that they really preferred reading the Bible without it. 


Loving our children yields monumental rewards and should be on the forefronts of our minds every single day.  The simple things I've listed here have made a huge impact on my family and helped me to love my children well.  I hope they will help you, too!

Tuesday, October 4, 2011

Reverence Your Husband

Ephesians 5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

The older my kids get, the more clearly I see how extraordinary God's direction in this verse is. 

I have growing boys and they act like emerging bulls at times, which is to be expected. But never does my husband's authority and goodwill with them become so apparent and effective as when those little bulls arise. 

Young bulls need a solid foundation that only a loving father can provide.  It is amazing how important it is for them to absolutely know that Dad is the captain of his ship and his word is not only final, but that mom respects and honors him.

We were watching a Tim Tebow video recently and something he said really stuck with me. He said something to the effect of "I'm not perfect, but every time I succeed I get closer to excellence."  Isn't that a neat way to look at practicing at something?  We get closer to excellence.

You can tell a lot about a family by how much they laugh together.  At our house, it is regular occurence. Love, joy, peace and fellowship are the source of water that all children thirst for.  When it's in abundance, families flourish.

I think women who don't respect their husbands have children that don't respect their parents. When I have trouble with my attitude, I can feel it affect the whole house.  It is very unfeminine for a woman to be pushy, loud, brassy, bossy, etc.  These are inherently male traits like facial hair and bulging muscles. 

Men (real men) are attracted real women. And God made women to be feminine. Men are highly atttacted to women who smile, look up to them and respect them. 

Our children are completely dependent on the environment which their parents provide.  And like it or not, much is influenced by the woman of the house.  That's us! :) 

Edited for clarity:
The Noah Webster Dictionary defines reverence as: fear mingled with respect and esteem. 


The bible gives commands for both husbands and wives. Because God invented/created marriage he gets to make the rules. Therefore, he gives husband and wives different instructions. 

But it's important to note that NO where does it say for a man to make his wife respect him

Men have a greater need for respect than women and women have a greater need for love than men. 

Reverencing a husband is a choice. Any man who "demands" reverence is in error.  Do I fear my husband in terms of being afraid? No I don't.  But I do know that God takes the chain of command he created very seriously... and I do fear God. Fearing God is the beginning of wisdom. Only fools don't fear God. 

And only foolish women don't reverence their own husbands.  I know there are twisted thinking liberal women who make fun of God's way. But that is their misfortune. Most, if not all, of them will end up reaping what they have sown.

When things are going my way it's easy and natural to show respect to my husband. And most of the time he makes it easy, so I consider myself very blessed. My husband's a great guy.  But when it is difficult, there are times I have failed to reach the mark. 

God  commands us to love others (and that includes our husbands!) as ourselves. :) I think what makes it difficult is when a husband leads in a way or direction that we don't like.  We have an idea in our minds of what we want, where we want to go in life and how to get there.  And when a man makes a decision that makes his wife feel afraid, she is tempted to instruct, nag and teach him. But what he really needs is his wife's support. I saw a comical look at this principal when I watched Lampoon's Christmas Vacation a few years ago. The wife in that movie was so tolerant and supportive of her husband no matter how silly or crazy his ideas were. Another movie example of this was in The Out-of-Towners with Jack Lemmon. I couldn't help noticing how incredibly patient the wife in that movie was with her man. Inspiring and funny!

Reverencing your husband when you think he's wrong has much more power than we really understand.  Our children - boys especially - instinctively know that their dads are the authority in the home. 

Anytime your kids witness mom diminish their father's authority, it diminishes your family in subtle ways. And in time, a wife's slack attitude or irreverence will be mirrored to her from her children.  In fact, I believe they learn it from her. 

When a woman marries, she takes her husband's name - not the other way around - indicating the joining of her life to his. Her identity is woven into her husband which is a picture of Christ and his church.  


Ephesians 5:23-24 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be [subject] to their own husbands in every thing.

Proverbs 12:4 A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.

Eww...rotten bones can't be good.  A man cannot help but be ashamed of a contentious wife.  And this scripture tips us off that it can actually be a contributing cause to a husband's ill health!

Some women look at their influence in the home as an ufair burden.  I choose to see it as the amazing honor that it is.  And our influence is underscored when we have the support and delight of our husbands.  

A man spells love "R E S P E C T".  For a great read on this subject, you might enjoy the book "Love and Respect" by Emerson Eggerichs. 

Do you fear God enough to do what he says?  Even when your friends, sisters, relatives ridicule you for it?  Do you confuse reverencing or submitting to your husband with something awful?  Then you need wisdom. It is found in the person of Jesus Christ and the Bible. Fearing God is where it all begins.

Psalms 111:10 The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: a good understanding have all they that do his commandments: his praise endureth for ever. 
Are you brawler?


Pr 21:9 It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.  
Are you an angry woman?



Pr 21:19 It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.

My behavior either builds my house or tears it down.  Isn't it tragic that this is done with her own hands? 

Proverbs 14:1 Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.


It's in your own best interest to honor your husband - even when you believe he is wrong.  One of the many benefits beyond happy, stable children is that a husband who is consistently honored by his wife will value her opinion. 

It's the same in reverse.  Do you want your husband to still love you even when he thinks you're a brat?  A man will go against a contemptible wife deliberately, even if just to prove his manhood.  Women who don't understand that men are different and don't see things the way they do or react the same way, are dumb wives.  If that offends you, it's probably true for you because the truth often hurts.  I ought to know - it's taken me years to learn this. :)

The best thing a wife can do to build her house is to love her husband and reverence her husband.  When I find it really difficult and I haven't already messed up, I try to pray quietly and keep a guard on my mouth. 

Reverencing our husbands is a good thing. Not because I said so, but because God says so.  You are building a future that brings honor to God and provides your children with a secure foundation. 

One day my nest will be empty and I plan to have sweet golden years with my hunk o' gold.  How about you?  Will you be like a dripping faucet that will eventually drive him away? 

Fear God.

Reverence your husband.

Build your house.