Monday, July 25, 2011

So Grateful For My Husband

As women, we are prone to emotions that toss us to and fro, hormones that can make us feel like holding onto a chair to keep our world from spinning out of control and responsibilities that make being President of the United States seem like an easier job. I believe it's super important to know your make up so that we can be on guard for becoming out of balance.

Being married and keeping the home can sometimes give us tunnel vision. It can be easy to forget what started it all in the first place. Good, strong, happy marriages are not accidental, they are delieberate. We must remind ourselves often of the wonderful blessing that God has given us in our husbands. Seek to shower him with all the love that God has shown to you.

The Lord has been gracious to us with his tender mercies. We must always remember that and then let that love overflow onto others. The first one in line for that love is our husbands and then our children. Write him little love notes, poetry, songs. Reminisce together of your courtship, your wedding, your honeymoon. Continue making new memories that will be just as sweet and dear to you in years to come.

Have you thanked the Lord for your husband today?

I made the following list once when I was really upset with my husband. We had just had an argument over something trivial that turned into a "why are you so hard to communicate with?" kind of quarrel. To get my heart back in the right place, I started listing all the things I was grateful for. It helped put everything back into perspective for me and forget my anger.

One thing it helped me realize somehow was that I should not expect my husband to communicate the same way I do or even understand everything I say. I've gotten much better at communicating with him since then. :) And just doing this little exercise was key. That and prayer for understanding and love to grow between us, which I'm happy to say, it has.

Things about my husband for which I'm grateful...

That he believes in, studies and expounds on the word of God.


That he always comes right home to me and doesn't "hang out" with anyone else. I'm his #1.


That his love makes my insecurities digress.


That we get to spend so much time together when work is slow.

That he's such a caring and fun dad to our kids.

That he’s an entrepreneur and handles business matters extremely well.

That he's mathematically minded and can be counted on when it comes to important money matters.

That he doesn't mind if I sleep in when I've had a difficult night's sleep.

That he loves my cooking and brags about it to others.


That he will rally our sons and they will all do the dishes or cleaning for me when I’m ill and make it seem like fun.

That he gets along so well with others and is unselfish.

That he spends huge quantities of time with our sons. Playing with them, teaching them, hanging out with them. We are his priority.

That he makes up fun games like football tag and ghost runner baseball and plays them with our kids.

That we are making sweet memories for when we are old.

That when I think of growing old with the husband of my youth, I get goosebumps. It's going to be good.

That he is dependable, steady faithful and loyal.

That he is so funny and makes us all laugh with his crazy jokes.

For the new Tahoe he talks of buying me because he’s worried my Uplander isn't quite good enough for me.

That even after all these years I have so much fun with him and look forward to his calls and just being with him.

For all the great talks we have when we make long-distance drives anywhere.

That he can still make my spine turn to jelly when I gaze into his beautiful blue eyes.

That he still says I’m beautiful and funny and loves it when I smile. (Did you know your smile is your best accesory?)

That he handles the bills and phone calls that I dread.
That he takes care of his family so capably.

That he provides us with all that we need and many things that we want.

That he protects me and the kids from harm.

That he handles most of the “dirty work” when I’m too squeamish.

That he loves that I stay home and educate our children and take care of home matters.

That he does not swear, curse, get drunk, smoke, do drugs or look at wrong images. Ever.

That he likes to include me in his interests and hobbies and explains the same sports to me over and over without ever showing impatience. (*swoon*)

That he trusts my judgment on clothing styles and colors and lets me pick out outfits for him.

That I married the best man I have ever known.

I love admire and respect my beloved husband.

What are you grateful for in your husband?

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Perfect Enchilada Sauce

I've tried a lot of recipes for enchilada sauce and this one is the winner.  My kids don't like a lot of spice and this one is perfect in that department. My husband just adds a little of his favorite hot sauce, Chalula, to his plate so everybody's happy.






Best of all, it's easy to prepare with some simple kitchen staples.


2 TBSP Oil
2 TBSP butter
2 TBSP all purpose flour
1/2 tsp cumin
1/2 tsp cocoa powder
2 cups water or chicken broth
1/2 tsp salt (I use celtic sea salt)
1/2 tsp brown sugar
1/8 tsp cinnamon
1/2 tsp garlic powder
2 TBSP Chile powder
8 oz tomato sauce


I always put the dry ingredients in small bowls first. Then they're ready to dump in when it's time. So put the flour, cumin, and  cocoa in one small bowl.  Put the salt, sugar, cinnamon, garlic and chili powders in another small bowl.  Wash the top of the tomato sauce can and open it and have a whisk ready. Now you're all set to make the sauce!


First, heat the oil and butter in a medium sauce pan until melted. Add the flour, cumin and cocoa and whisk till smooth.  Cook for one minute.  Add the liquid ingredients and whisk till smooth. Add the last bowl of dry ingredients and cook and stir till thickened (about 5 minutes).
This recipe is great to double and freeze half for next time.


To make the "whole enchilada" just ladle some sauce into a greased 9x13 casserole dish and dip tortillas in sauce, place fillings of choice down the center (cheese, chicken, shredded or ground beef, onion) and roll up. Line enchiladas up in a pan and top with remaining sauce and shredded cheese and a few sliced black olives.  Bake at 375 for about 20-30 minutes or till hot and bubbly.


*Shredding chicken was always a chore until one day I thought I'd try putting in my Kitchen Aid mixer with the regular paddle attachment. It does an awesome job in just seconds. 

Picnic Menu

The heat wave hitting the mid to south west this week is hard to take with no central air conditioning. Last night I literally just dripped with perspiration no matter what I did.


Today I'm taking the kids to the nearby lake and we're packing a picnic so we can stay most of the day.
My picnic menu today is easy to prepare, but very tasty and good. We'll be having turkey wraps, carrot sticks, homemade cherry pie and iced tea.


Here's the recipe for the turkey wraps:
mix together 8 oz cream cheese, 1/2 cup mayonnaise, 1/4 teaspoon dried basil, 1/4 teaspoon dried oregano, 1/4 teaspoon onion powder, 1/4 teaspoon dill weed and 1/4 teaspoon garlic powder.  Other ingredients needed are 1/4 onion (minced), 10 slices deli turkey and shredded lettuce.


Warm 10 flour tortillas and spread the mixture evenly over the tortillas.  Sprinkle the 1/4 cup finely minced onion and shredded lettuce on each tortilla and add one slice deli turkey breast. Roll up tightly jelly-roll style. If I had any, I'd add some sliced avocado to these as well. Yum!




              

Friday, July 15, 2011

Stretching Food Dollars

We have a family of four in our home and one of the ways that I "earn" money for our household is by doing the labor that ready-made foods offer to do for me.  And the savings of making several foods myself can really add up.  Stretching food dollars is nothing new; my grandmother was doing it in the depression era and beyond and it's one of the only monthly expenses we have any control over.  The key is to stretch wisely because we can't afford to sacrifice good nutrition for ourselves or our growing children.  Teenage boys especially need higher amounts of nutrients during their teens than at any other stage in their life. (More on this tomorrow.)


We've all noticed how manufacturers are coming out with more and more convenience foods than ever before.  These are actually very hepful for those who have physical limitations and can't do much cooking as well as for traveling. We had to rely on some convenience foods from the grocery store when we first moved here and were staying in a hotel for several weeks while house hunting.  But those who have a kitchen and are able to make many of these foods from scratch they're best avoided.  Besides, homemade foods are better and cheaper.  A few of the foods that I no longer buy ready-made are:


Pizza sauce
Pizza crust
Spaghetti sauce
Salad Dressing
Tartar sauce
Taco sauce
Enchilada sauce
Jam
Gravy
Pie crust
Pudding
Whipped cream
Hot Chocolate
Garlic Bread Spread
Chocolate syrup
Yogurt drinks
Smoothies
Waffles
Bread
Macaroni and cheese


I like knowing I am helping my husband's hard earned dollars stretch that much further. The rewards pay off as more money in the bank and healthier foods for my family. No transfats, food dyes, high fructose corn syrups, and all the junky fillers I see on the labels. But almost always it's cheaper.  So that is one way a keeper at home can help "earn" some money - by spending less of it and doing the work herself.


So, early this morning I made a strawberry-rhubarb pie. (Baking early in the morning in the summer keeps the house cooler.)  I've never had this kind of pie before so I'm anxious to try it.  I'll be serving this tonight after dinner.  It oozed out on one side, but other than that, I think it turned out pretty. If the recipe is any good, I'll share that, too sometime.




Later for lunch I made burritos with rice, beef, refried beans, shredded cheddar, and sour cream.  It made 10 burritos.  Here's an extra one all wrapped up for the freezer.






Satisfying Burrito Recipe
2 cups cooked rice
1 package of 10 tortillas
1 can refried beans
1 lb ground beef
1.5 cups shredded cheddar cheese
sour cream


1. In a medium saucepan, pour a little oil, 1 cup dry white rice, 2 cups water and a few sprinkles of cumin, chile powder, celtic sea salt in a medium pot and bring to a boil. Cover and simmer for 15-20 minutes, depending on your altitude.
2. Brown ground beef seasoned with montreal steak seasoning and a few splashes of worchestershire sauce. 
3. Spread each tortilla with about 2 tablespoons refried beans right from the can and sprinkle with cheese.
4. Dot with sour cream and add about 2 tablespoons rice and 1 tablespoon meat.
5. Roll up burrito style.


Makes 10 burritos


After I served my sons and I, there were seven leftover for the freezer.  These will make nice additions to my husband's lunch box next week.



 I wrapped the extra burritos individually in plastic wrap and then put them into a gallon size freezer bag and for the freezer.
I was careful to leave enough leftover ground beef for making a "cheeseburger" pizza tonight (one of my family's favorites).




This is the homemade ranch dressing I made that I use as the "sauce" for the cheeseburger pizza. It's a snap to whip together and the flavors blend well.  It's a family favorite.
Here is the poolish that I made early this morning for the pizzas tonight. Poolish is similar to sour dough starter and it's the first stage for making "brick oven pizza" at home. Smells good and doesn't even compare to store bought pizza crust.




Here's the leftover chicken schnitzel from last nights dinner.  I'll probably freeze one cutlet and dice up the other to top our second pizza with. 




Our refrigerator in this rental house is very small and it's a challenge to work with.  I went from having a huge brand new fridge (that we had to leave with the house back east - too big to move) plus two deep freezers that I would fill up,  to having the smallest fridge I think we have ever had. 
I think it is 20 cubic feet or close to it. Very small. Round storage containers have "wasted" space so to make it neater and increase space, I now use square storage containers.  They fit and stack so nicely and make the space inside go farther.


I've noticed they keep the food fresher, too, which is a nice bonus.  And I like how they make the fridge tidy looking.

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Timely Tips Tuesday

 It makes a lot of sense to clean with natural ingredients especially when you understand the harmful side affects  of unnecessary chemicals in many household cleansers.  The more we can replace them with safe and natural products, the better.


I've tried many different homemade cleaning solutions but I've had a very hard time finding Arm and Hammer washing soda.  I recently found out where I can buy some locally by calling 1-800-524-1328.  Saved me a lot searching and wasted gas because for some reason this product is not sold in most stores.

Saturday, July 9, 2011

Decorating Before and After

When we moved into this house, there were several red and taupe accent walls which were not only too stark but very poorly done (uneven edges and messy looking). Well, the painting is finally done and I'm so happy with the results!


I think the new neutral color looks fabulous. It's been especially good for me, as the red was just an agitating color to look at. The color red tends to "close in on you" plus it's been known to actually raise your blood pressure as well as your appetite (which I certainly don't need, thank you). Check out the results! (I've also updated my Castle tour.)  I actually feel more peaceful in this house now that the red is GONE.  :)  Yippee!!
 BEFORE



BEFORE

AFTER


BEFORE
AFTER

This is the entry way looking at the front door.

This is the entry FROM the front door.

BEFORE

AFTER

It was a lot of work to prime and paint over the dark red but it was worth it. I'm soooo thankful for my sweet husband and sons who did the majority of this tough job!

Help for Dry Heels

Living in an extremely arid climate, my heels have been taking a beating. I found a little jar of Blue Goo Cracked Heel ointment at Walmart with a main ingredients of Emu oil.




It's a very orange colored ointment and will stain sheets and such, so a little goes a long way! I apply it to my heels at bedtime and rub it in deeply.  I'm pleaseed with how well it works.When I use it at night, my heels are noticably softer in the morning. Good stuff!

Friday, July 8, 2011

Close Call with a Tornado

This is what we saw when we looked in our back yard last night after tornado hearing sirens.  Our county alerts the communtiy with these eery sounding sirens when ominous, churning storm clouds hover threateningly close to the ground. 






I have never been so close to such a sight - we could see the clouds swirling around and around less than a mile from our home.  I found myself feeling just a little panicky a few times. It was pretty scary for a few minutes as we waited and watched.  Then, praise God, the clouds began to pass over us further east and the churning and swirling began to dissipate.  Whew!


I'm thankful we have a basement to run to if we needed to, but I'm so glad we didn't need to! :)

When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee. Isaiah 43:2


Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Have you Been Blessed with a Hard Working Man?

Is your husband a hard working man?  If he were asked if his wife appreciated him, what do you think he would say?

It's such a privilege to be the keeper my home and take care of my family. Having a place to call home to call my own is truly a blessing. I try to remind myself throughout the day how blessed I am. 

Sometimes when tired of washing the dishes, I try to remember to thank the Lord for those dishes - they help me feed my family.  Same goes for the laundry. I have been without so many times in my life that I find it hard to complain about the piles of dirty clothes or if I get behind. I am thankful to God deep in my soul for how much He has blessed me with. I have sufficient clothes and linens for my family - a blessing! And I have my very own laundry facilities right inside in my home. Another blessing! No traipsing to a laundromat. 

When I clean the toilets in our home, I am thankful to God that I have indoor plumbing. Not everyone does! Some have a smelly outhouse, or worse.  When I clean the floors, I'm thankful they are not dirt floors. 

God designed women to be the keepers of their homes. Gratitude for what our husbands provides for our families should be the prevailing thought throughout the day. 


Children - Your Husband's Little Treasures
Children need to see us smile throughout the day. Even while we work! When we smile at the ordinary, we are modeling gratitude and gratitude is catching.  Children who can feel the ease in their mom's spirit and the thankfulness in her tone are learning more than she could ever teach them from a devotional book.  We are living textbooks to our children and they are watching every move we make.  It should make us stop and wonder what they are reading in us! Gratitude and joy or annoyance and frustration?
What you do speaks so loud that I cannot hear what you say.  -Ralph Waldo Emerson

Men thrive on respect, admiration, appreciation and a smile on the face of their wife. I'm truly thankful that my husband is beside me in this mixed up world. My hard working man was up at 4:30 this morning getting ready for work. He was supposed to wake me up, but was sweet enough to let me sleep in and gave me a soft kiss goodbye at 5am. 

Focus on the Good
Life will always present us with problems, but if we focus on them, it leads to being a whining, unthankful, grump of a woman. Not very nice to come home to. Think about it: would YOU like to come home to you? When we focus our thoughts on what is GOOD (and just, pure, and lovely ~ Phillipians 4 KJB) the hard things in life will fade in comparison.  
Every time you show your husband that 
you love him, your children grow more secure.


Proverbs 14:1 says, "Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands."

Have you ever surveyed the condition of your household after inadvertently saying or doing something a little foolish? It's not pretty, is it? It takes longer to repair the damage that results from a foolish word or deed than the time and energy it takes to prevent it. (A stitch in time saves nine!)  An easy way for a woman to build her house is to pray and ask God for wisdom in the morning. Ask him to help you be thankful and help you to smile. Ask him to work and cultivate in you a meek and quiet spirit.  If your are an emotional, easily angered woman, you have got to lay it down. You are tearing your own house apart. 

Did you know that there is a guaranteed way to become instantly more wise and controlled?  

Simply be quiet. 
Proverbs 29:11 A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards.


Sometimes we are prone to being especially talkative when we're feeling emotional, so we should be especially careful there.  Don't open the flood gates and utter all that is on your mind.  Choose your words carefully. Choose your responses even more carefully. The tongue is unruly, but it's especially so when we are upset.  

Anyone who keeps their thoughts and words "in till afterwards" shows great restraint which in turn shows wisdom. Being quiet saves a lot of grief and keeps you from plucking your house down with your own hands. Spend a few minutes each day thinking about what you are grateful for in your hard working man.  


Viva la Difference!
Men and women are different! And that difference should be celebrated! Men don't interpret things the same way as women and that's a good thing. Women appreciate hearing their husbands say "I love you". Husbands appreciate hearing their wives respect and admiration for them and why we love them.  Our husbands are more moved when we are impressed with something specific they've done rather than generalities. He wants and needs to know why he is special to you above all other men. 

Don't look down on his frailties and weaknesses and expect him to be "perfect" and worthy of your admiration. Admire him for the same reasons you let him put that ring on your finger. Reverence/respect him just because he's yours, whether he deserves it or not. Would you like to be loved only if you measured up to his ideal woman? Whatever your problem is with your man, turn the tables around and see if you have a problem with yourself.

Men are highly competitive and status oriented so we need to keep in mind the fact a husband's ego is actually rather fragile. God made men the way they are. And men need to be built up. Do you see what an honored position God gave to us as wives? A good man is a treasure.

I love, love, love to be my soul mate's Queen. 

Our admiration must reflect our husband's masculinity, dedication to his family, hard work ethic, business integrity and so forth.  How are some men lured away by other women? Flattery. Smiles. And even fluttering her lashes at him a little.

Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelidsFor by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the precious life. Proverbs 6:25-26 KJV

When he's not getting the validation he needs at home, some men will resort to accepting a hollow alternative — flattery. 

I'm not suggesting you offer empty flattery to your man.  I'm saying that genuinely praising his worth and value to you is like water to his soul. 

Think about your husband throughout the day.  Remember what attracted you to him before you were married. Spend some time daydreaming about how enthralled you were with him.  Never neglect to stir that deep well of love inside you that is just for your husband. 

And don't forget to reflect on what attracted him to you! Did you dress nice for him?  Wear perfume and and a little makeup? 

Sometimes after we start having kids we're so exhausted from late night baby feedings and extra housework that we don't have the energy to put into our appearance like we used to.  We can get lonely for adult companionship and even deal with depression.  

But the truth, it takes only a few minutes to run a brush through our hair and apply a little blush and lip balm. Even if we've gained some weight, we can still bring out our beauty by giving high priority to daily cleanliness, silky hair, light makeup and flattering clothes. (And very tight jeans/pants and low cut blouses are truly not flattering.) I think we can dress to please God's standards for modesty as well as our husband's desire for a lovely wife. 


A Listening Ear
My husband often prays for the foul-mouthed men he meets in his work and he measures his words with them very, very carefully - sometimes saying nothing at all. When I am careful to listen, he shares little things that happened in his day.  The amount he tells me tends to depend on how I react. If I'm quick to pass judgment, I notice that his story ends pretty quickly. But if I just listen intently and say very little he tends to reveal much more than he normally would. I imagine every man longs to have a wife who is also his confidante. I so enjoy being my husband's best friend.



Proverbs 31:11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.



Men face tough competition in the work force and they don't need any more in their own homes. Home is supposed to be their safe haven.  They need to feel they can relax. 

Why do you think a man acts so tough when he's hurt everywhere accept to his wife?  Because with her he can let his guard down. Don't be offended if he belches, passes gas, or acts a little slovenly. 

A man needs to be encouraged, built up, understood and admired at homeMen are usually painfully aware of their shortcomings. I have to remind myself often that I'm not his personal critic. 

Women are wordy and I don't think a man finds that a desired character trait. We must learn to listen to our husbands. I am speaking to myself here as well, because just this week I caught myself failing at this. 


Recently my husband was sharing with me some things from work that made me feel he was being taken advantage of.  As he told of the various goings on and the problems they were causing him, my passion grew. Funny how our sense of justice can rise so quickly.  My husband is the kind of man who often patiently waits for things to right themselves.  Me...not so much.  I am learning though! So I have to be careful.


That day, I found myself "advising" him.  As soon as I realized it, I shut up and just tried to listen and smile.  This can be difficult when we have SO much to say, right?  But I'm glad I stopped when I did.  I prayed and gave the situation to the Lord and refocused my thoughts back on gratitude.



A man is king of his castle
and you are his queen


Do you tell your husband that you're thankful for him and appreciate him?  Or does he feel that all he does for you is merely "expected" of him?  It feels so nice to be appreciated. I know that no matter how expected my work is, it feels really good to be appreciated. 


In my observation, most men are truly and delightfully easy to please and most of them speak few words. They can feel appreciated by the slightest gestures of gratitude. 

Find out the ways that your husband best interprets your gratitude and begin finding ways to express your thankfulness to him regularly. 

You might be surprised by how this seemingly small token of your love will cause the garden of your marriage to blossom indefinitely!

Tuesday, July 5, 2011

Why WOULDN'T You Homeschool?

Recently my husband and I met a family who is considering homeschooling their son. He's only 3 right now, but it's never too soon to decide. In fact, the sooner the better because you can begin planning and researching all the many things there are to learn. 

What many parents probably don't realize is that, assuming their children aren't punching a daycare clock 40 hours a week, good parenting and homeschooling are kind of the same thing.
I cannot comprehend why any Christian family thinks it's a good idea to hand their children over to strangers 40 + hours per week.  And 40 hours is a conservative estimate. The reality for many children, after packing back packs, waiting for and riding a bus (round trip), homework (designed to reduce precious family time), and the many school functions, 50 + hours is probably more accurate. 

Some families rationalize that their Private Schools are better.  But the truth is that these merely emulate public schools in nearly every aspect except for making illegalizing God and prayer.  But the key issue remains that the child is spending nearly all his time away from home in company other than who God intended - their parents.

The influences from other kids, even if they have the "christian" label, is still there. To opt for a Christian School still pales in comparison to the rich and vast wealth that a mother can offer her children at home.

Been There, Done That

I was homeschooled myself until 9th grade. It's something I am very grateful for. Public high school was like wading through the land of Sodom and Gomorrah. And I did not emerge unscathed.  But as a child, I was the recipient of my parents choices, good or bad.  Your children are the same. You are writing an unerasable story on the blank pages of their lives. Their youth is something they can never, ever get back.  The majority of parents today are letting strangers, people who could never love them as much as their parents, write on most of the blank pages of their children's lives.  And the story is disgraceful.

Homeschooling, simply put, is a major part of taking good and proper care of your own children. 

Homeschooling is feeding the minds, bodies and souls of the precious souls in your charge. 

Homeschooling provides healthy home cooked meals.

Homeschooling includes instruction in God's laws and nurturing experiences within the safe boundaries of the family. 

Homeschooling is picnicsm, reading together and snuggling in the morning instead of running to catch a bus.

Homeschooling is exploring history from a Godly perspective, praying openly and often, and freely pursuing God-given talents.  


But perhaps most importantly homeschooling is being a family


A Child is Like a Sponge

They are constantly soaking up everything around them.  What are public schooled kids soaking up for the majority of their day in their parent's absence?  Humanism.

God-Given Teachers
God gave every child built-in teachers from birth - their parents.  Think about all the teaching that is credited to parents - how to clap, smile, sing, laugh, talk, walk, eat properly, drink from a cup and use a toilet just to name a few!

Yet, all of a sudden, when their child turn 5 years old, parents feel compelled to give up their children to strangers.

It is so abnormal for a parent to hand over a child to an institution to raise, teach and train. 
If these things never occurred to you, I encourage you to think about it.  Could it be that you have been deceived?  There are very few feelings as awful as realizing that you've been deceived.

The real questions isn't why should you homeschool?  The real question is why wouldn't you homeschool?  Some common misconceptions include thinking that you must know all there is about every acedemic subject before you can homeschool a child.  This is just false. There are wonderful books and curriculums and unit studies that will provided the wonderful learning structure.

So why DO parents send their children to government (public) school?

So many excuses float around - socialization academics, sports, to name a few. But is it really to learn the three R's and make "friends"? 

This simply can't be the real reason because these godless prisons we call public schools are churning out reprobates who can't spell or add but know plenty about immoral behavior, profanity, promiscuity, substance abuse and humanism. 

Their brand of socialization is the reason that "school" and "shooting" are no longer a bizzare and unfamiliar phrase.  Teen suicide rates are at an all time high, more than any other group of people combined. A must read: The Socialization Trap.

The Public School Deception

Many parents have really fallen for the lie that a kid can't learn without being taught by a "professional".  It's a good thing that Albert Einstein's mother didn't believe this lie or we might not have gotten E=MC2.  Also Lincoln, Leonardo De Vinci, Benjamin Franklin and Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart, to name a few.

The shocking and repulsive truth I've discovered is that, for many families, the real reason for sending their children away from home is to get rid of them for a while... in the name of education.

Training up children properly anymore has become a rare quality in a parent.  Many parents are the product of broken homes and working mothers and by the time they have children of their own, they're ill prepared to raise children. So they are eager to hand them over to the "pros".  Only what many parents don't realize is that truly loving a child makes you a 'pro', no matter what your background or lack of skill.
 

Here's what I think: the world's philosophy of "positive affirmation", calling old fashioned spanking "hitting" and parking kids in front of the boob tube, has turned many children into little monstrous tyrants. And when they turn 5 or 6, their parents are anxious to unload them. This may sound harsh, but it's the unfortunate and ugly truth. 

Have You Been Deceived?

The very nature of deception is a lack of knowledge, wisdom or understanding (or a cocktail of all three). I know there are many good, loving, Christian parents who have simply been deceived.  Their thinking is 


"this is just the way it's done.  My parents' parents' parents went to school, so my kids will, too."
But in reality, compulsory education is a very short lived tradition of the last century.  Parents educating their own chidlren at home has been going on since creation began. How else could God's people, the Hebrews, teach their children, "speaking of them [God's laws] when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down, and when thou risest up" if they sent their children off to government institutions?



Hitler once said,


"If you tell a lie big enough, loud enough and long enough, people will believe it".
It's time for people to realize (admit) that public schools are not
education facilities anymore.  It is up to each of us to seek the truth and not stop until we find it. The bible says that wisdom is crying out in the streets! 

Every single one of us must be humble before God and seek his forgiveness, redemption and mercy that is being offered new every day. 

It is a lie that salvation is only for some. The bible says it's for all who repent andt seek the Lord with all their hearts. Once saved, we are bought with Christ's blood and he promises to lead and guide us. 

Our job is to believe and follow him and ignore the opposing voices. The voices that say public school is natural are LYING voices.


The Big Lie: send your kids away from home so they can be socialied and learn academics (and be babysat until they're an adult - for free!).


The Truth: send your kids away from home to hand them over to Satan where they will learn everything BUT academics. Any "good" you've done will be undone. The child's loyalty will shift from his you (family) to his school his school family ("friends"). 

Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners. Awake to righteousness, and sin not; for some have not the knowledge of God: I speak this to your shame.  - 1 Corinthians 15:33

Saturday, July 2, 2011

Speaking Up in the Community

I sent a letter to our county public library with an emphasis on making the environment inside libraries welcome to all rather than assuming that every person entering their doors was a fan of Twilight, vampires, witches and soft porn. 


Increasingly I have found the local libraries (and we've lived coast to coast and seen the same trend) displaying books with the aforementioned subject matter and it is getting to the point I don't want to take my kids in with me when we pick up materials, much less browse


Browsing the library used to turn up interesting finds on books we never might have thought existed but it's becoming nearly impossible without wading through extremely offensive magazine covers and book jackets all staring us in the face - most of them at children's eye level, which I don't think is coincidental - all over the place.  I've never seen so many displays in a library before - they are literally everywhere!


Ok, well I finally wrote to them and told them of all my concerns and I just realized the other day while I was there that I didn't see all the offensive, blood dripping from the mouth, vampire-y books everywhere.  I am hoping that maybe someone read my letter and actually passed it on to my local branch. 


So my point is that we all need to let our voices be heard.  If I see any more covers start creeping up, I think that the next time I will speak with a library worker in person, possibly even walking them over to the offensive material.


This kind of thing is also happening in the big box stores with their tv section.  Every time we are in a store and they are playing movies with PG-13 ratings, my husband searches out the manager and asks him when they started prohibiting people younger than 13 years old to enter their store?  This has always led to the movies being changed to something neutral.  But they will keep trying so we ALL need to let our voices be heard about these things.  Costco actually tried giving us the line that they "have to" play the newer released movies or they wouldn't sell.  Realizing that is just a line, we pressed the matter until they could see the impudence of playing material that was offensive to many families who were paying members to their store!


This all reminds me of the movies It's a Wonderful life and Back to the Future II when they showed the horribly corrupted "future" of what could happen when good people didn't do anything to thwart and stop the evil agendas all around them.


You may not realize how important your voice is, but I strongly suspect that the 'bad guys' DO. So speak up!

Friday, July 1, 2011

This and That

We've had nicely busy days this week.  My husband's had a lot of work this week and we haven't gotten to see much of him unfortunately.  But in his line of work, it's either super busy or slow with several days off in a week. Because of this, I think our boys tend to get more time with their dad than most kids.  I took the kids swimming at the lake Wednesday which was so fun. They like to throw around a football while they swim.  They got nice and cooled off that hot day. 


Today we went ice skating with some homeschool friends. Our boys had a lot of fun and are always tired and worn out by the time we get home.  They were a little discouraged because they still don't know the other kids very well.  We're the new kids on the block around here. I've been encouraging them to just be friendly and patient. Friendships take time. I've been thinking about hosting an afternoon of games and snacks one of these days so the kids can have a chance to form some friendships. 


Our house is staying decently cool these days.  We are just using one of those rolling AC units that have an accordian type hose that hooks up to the window.  That combined with one of those power fans that sit on the floor (and are LOUD), the house is holding at around 75 degrees.  It's up in the 90's outside, so that's not bad.  We have to speak up to be heard over the roar of the fan most of the time, but that's okay.


Tonight is our first friday night without pizza for dinner.  I decided, much to our children's dismay, that it's just too hot to be baking pizzas every friday night (and no, I don't want to grill pizzas!) so we're going to change it up for the summer and have barbeques on friday nights instead.  And hopefully I can interest them in a family activity besides a movie.  I would like to wean our family off of friday movie night, but it will probably have to come gradually.  I am going to do my best to keep movie and pizza night for cold wintry fridays if my husband will let me. 


So tonight we're going to have grilled bleu cheese burgers and corn on the cob for dinner and then play Bible Outburst and Family Fun afterwards.  We're also going to grill 6 chicken thighs that have been marinating and I'm going to slice them up and freeze them in meal size portions for dinners this week.